Filed under: Feminism, Sex | Tags: abstinence, blasphemy, purity, Sex, virginity
In the conventional sense of the word, I lost my virginity when I was 16. It wasn’t a big deal, I was with a boy I liked and it was entirely my choice – he was too shy to ask, I had to make all the suggestions but god damnit, I wanted to do it!
Life went on basically the same after I had a cock in my cunt for the very first time. However, I remember one day talking to a friend of mine who was older, played the guitar, had his own apartment and oozed confidence. In my naivety, I thought he was totally cool. Let’s call him Dickwad McGee.
One day I was hanging out with Dickwad McGee and we were discussing a mutual friend. For some reason, Dickwad started to compare my desirability with my friend’s. Dickwad told me that I was hot, but that ultimately my friend was more desirable because she wasn’t “used goods”. She was still a virgin.
Yeah that pissed me off. For one thing, I was convinced (and still am) that experience and skill is a good thing. But more than that, I couldn’t believe that somebody in my part of the universe thought virginity was still a big deal.
To this day, I am still shocked and disgusted by people who think virginity is some sort of holy, sacred, special thing. What’s the big fucking deal? The conventional idea people have about a person losing their virginity is when a penis enters a vagina! Something going in and out of an orifice? Nobody made a song and dance about the first time a crap left my arse, as far as I can tell!
Argh. To equate virginity to a kind of purity and cleanliness is to make sex something corrupting and dirty. If someone can explain to me why sex is corrupting and dirty without resorting to religious rhetoric, romantic rubbish, or pseudo-scientific codswallop… well, I’m all ears and orifices!
In my ever so humble opinion, purity is a notion used to control women’s sexuality, it fetishizes youth and inexperience and gives us unhealthy attitudes about sex. Besides, it’s just plain unrealistic and the sooner people stop preaching this abstinence based bullshit, the sooner we can evolve as a species.
As a final note… when I typed “evolved” I realised that I’ve probably completely destroyed any chances of making a persuasive argument to the sort of people who believe in this abstinence nonsense so instead I shall quote directly from the Holy Bible;
“My children, thou shalt go forth and fuck. Except for this guy, he’s creepy.” Nio 3:15
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