One of the most common things that people first say when they learn I am in a polyamorous relationship is “I couldn’t do it.” This strikes me as a basically harmless comment, albeit a little amusing – I kind of want to respond “nobody’s asking you to!”
Another reaction, upon learning that my boyfriend is dating my best friend, has been friends asking other mutual friends if they too are going to start dating W. One chum even jokingly asked another if she was planning on joining our “sex clan”!! Ok, I admit that W is absolutely smokin’ hot and totally awesome (objectively speaking and without the slightest bit of bragging!) but he’s not open slather, the man has limits!
So yeah, fairly innocuous comments but I wonder if sometimes they reflect some underlying assumptions about what it is to be polyamorous? To set the record straight… Just because I’m poly, it doesn’t mean I want everyone else to be. It’s just something that works for me. Also, FYI, polyamory doesn’t equal wanting to have sex with everyone and everything. That’s called “my old neighbour’s creepy dog in heat” and even that dog had limits, it had to eat and sleep sometimes.
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