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The Pervocracy – Sex Pozzie
October 26, 2011, 10:20 am
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Most critics of sex-positive feminism have not bothered to figure out what sex-positivity is.

It’s not the giggling, hair-twirling exclamation of “it’s feminist to be sexayyy!”  It’s really not.  I’m not going to defend that strawman.  (I also think it’s funny how often I get accused of being a Hooters-girl-bot, when I’m about the least Hooters-looking-person ever.)

Nor is it the demand that everyone be sexy or have sex.  Nor is it the claim that everything that involves sex is beyond criticism.  Nor is it the suggestion that sex will fix all the problems of feminism.

Instead, sex-positivity is the belief that sex and sexiness are… okay.  It’s the belief that people shouldn’t be judged by the sex they have.  It’s the belief that consent matters and social norms do not.  It’s the belief that porn and erotica are valid media of expression (not that the current porn industry is hunky-dory, cause it’s not) and that sex work ought to be just work (not that it currently is).  It’s the belief that neither “slut” nor “prude” should be an insult.  It’s the belief that every sexual and gender identity is valid.

Sex-positivity is, in a nutshell, the belief in sexual freedom as a key component of women’s freedom and of having a better world in general.

If you want to argue with that belief, we can talk.  But if you want to argue with “everyone should be a Hooters girl because showing men your boobies is like totally the most feministical choice!” you’re not really arguing with me.  I just think that I’m in no position to judge Hooters girls or assume that they’re dimwits, sexists, or helpless victims because of what they do for a living.

Read the entire article here. 

Because I’m still struggling with my RSI and cannot write much, I really like some of the stuff on The Pervocracy blog because her opinions are often reasonably similar to mine.

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I feel I need to say something about this, but find myself a little brain dead, Long holiday weekend, to much parting and not enough sex now that I think about it. Sexy means feeling good about yourself. Ya you can do all the things that help us feel sexy and to some you will look sexy, but to be really sexy you have to like yourself. I love sex, more than most, and I do feel sexy. I love having sex with myself. Not as much as with my husband but he can not keep up with me. I watch a lot of porn, and the sexist ones are the ones you know are enjoying it. Why do it if you do not enjoy it? Sex is always going to be a part of our lives. If we would start excepting this and letting people be who they are, things would be better. As an adult, it is my choice to do whatever I want to behind close doors as long as no children our being affected. If i want to have sex outside I will and I have. Life is to short for stupid people, believe in yourself and have fun. Laugh a lot, cry a lot, feel a lot, and have a lot of sex. “With or without a partner. I would love to say more tonight, but I find myself wanting to drift off. I will find you again, and see what you have to say, I do love talking about sex. Goodnight My Lady!!

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